It Aint Over Yet!!!

This video made me shed some tears. Sometimes we look at other people and wonder why their lives is so much better than ours or "appear" to be better than ours. We think God has given up on us and that only "certain" people are blessed but we must remember that everything happens for a reason! God works on his time so that his time will be perfect for our time. Every blessing that we received comes at the right moment. We to shall have our moment in life too :)

Change Your Thinking, and You Change Your Life

Last night between 8:00pm until around 10:00pm, hundreds of women and I were online on UStream live with Shanel Cooper Sykes. She is currently having these online classes called "The 7 Day Valuable Woman Challenge" and she is doing it for FREE. All you have to do is go to her website (http://www.shanelcoopersykes.com/main/vyv_broadcast.php) and register. Day 1 was about The mindset. Today is about Spirituality. Sign up so that you can see what the rest of the week will be about. Classes start at 8pm and end around 10pm eastern time. You must have a Ustream account and you must register in order to see her live because replays will not be available unless you pay!

Boy will I tell you. It was a mind opener for me. I realized that, although I have reprogrammed my mind with new knowledge and understanding of life, as well as deprogrammed it with old ways of thinking, I still have a lot of work to do. I am now aware, although I have been working on it, that I still need to change my language. Saying things such as I cant, I would only if, I do not have, Good things only happen to certain people, I'm tired, my life sucks, etc is words filled with negativity. You set yourself up for failure because you will only go as far as what your mind believes. Because before you DO, you have to BELIEVE!

I decided that instead of filling my mind up with negative words, I will fill them up with positive words such as: I can, I have everything I need to get to where I am going, Good things happens to me and opportunity is always flowing my way, I am filled with positive energy and I am exactly where I need to be right now in my life because this learning moment will help me to reach my true destiny. Choosing to use these type of words daily makes me feel so much better and hopefully they empower you also!!

Last night I also realized that I needed to believe that exactly what I want in my life is already mines. You got to believe that you already have that car. If you want a Mercedes Benz, you have to get into your 1999 Honda Accord and ride that Honda like it is that Mercedes Benz with your $2 .00 fake Chanel Sunglasses on and your hair blowing in the wind, (according to Shanel Cooper Sykes..lol). If you want that $200,000 house, you have to go into your one bedroom apartment house and live like you are already in that expensive house. You simply have to live and be like what you want to become. 

Last you have to expect it. Do not continue to expect LACK. Expect GREATNESS. Know that what you want is on its way. Its sort of like when you plan to go to this great party. You say to yourself I am going to look my best.  Matter of fact you already KNOW that you are going to be looking your best 2 seconds after hearing about or being invited to the party. You start to prepare in your head. You picture what type of outfit you will be going for. You picture the hairstyle you are going to wear. You picture the color lipstick and eye makeup that you will do to match the theme of your outfit. You just have it all figured out and you know that you are going to be looking the bomb even though the party is 2 weeks from now. Well that is exactly how we have to be with our lives.

We have to say what we want. Believe that it is coming and prepare and afterwards we just simply expect. God said ask and you shall receive. So after you ask,  you should expect and while you are expecting, get too preparing and, that will be a sign of your belief. I know that I am repeating myself but according to Miss Shanel Cooper Sykes, she says that repetition is the MOTHER of success. I will go as far to say that it is also the MOTHER of failure. What have you been repeating?

I know that what I have been repeating is not a good look and I plan on doing something about it TODAY, even if it is something small because in my opinion, small steps create one huge, massive step! So many of us walk around with a defeatist attitude towards life and seem not to mind. I say why not transform that mindset into a positive attitude and see what results we get that way. I mean what harm can it do?? What have negative thinking done for you in your life? It has done nothing for me personally but cause me misery! Did it make your life better? It made mines worse. Did it give you the results that you have been longing for?

If not, then I think its time for us all to make a change!!!

Do It For Yourself

I was currently in a situation in my life where I was aiming to move on from the things that close love ones had done to me in the past! This included family, friends, a lover, etc. For some people forgiveness comes naturally, but for me, it didn't. Things got so bad that I was even considering revenge, but deep down inside, I knew that in the end, the person who would be hurt the most would be me. 

The truth of the matter is that sometimes I believe that we hold on to what other's have done to us because we put so much trust in other human beings. We fail to realize that these are people, and putting too much trust in another human is putting them on a God like pedestal. When we do this we are really setting ourselves up for failure because just like ourselves, these people are going to make mistakes! 

Before I had a wake up call about a week ago, I had previously spent so much time being angry with love ones. Constantly planning how I was was going to permanently remove them from my life. I often asked myself, how could they do this to me? I remember repeatedly asking myself why me? why me? why me?

 That last time I asked myself why me was last Sunday! That was the day that I had a wakeup call! I was so down that all I started to do was pray. I just prayed and asked God to help me. I asked him to give me the strength to get through this! Forgiveness was the hardest thing for me to do emotionally but I knew deep down inside that I could get through it and I was right! God had answered my prayers immediately.

 I had been listening to this YouTuber who goes by the name of Lebonandi (check out her page 

http://www.youtube.com/user/Lebonandi), and I had become drawn to her spirit and her positive energy that she projected from the inside. I decided to write her asking her about forgiveness and she returned her answer by responding with a YouTube video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X41YH0hna14) which woke me the hell up! 

After viewing that video, I realized that I was tired of being angry. I was sick of crying. I was done with worrying and I was so over with feeling sorry for myself. I  decided that it was time for a change. See a lot of the time, we spend so much time being angry with people who have probably moved on with their lives. Who probably do not care that they hurt us. Sometimes they think that they were not wrong and some do not even know that they hurt us. So we have to move on with our lives. Not for those who have wronged us but for ourselves. 

We have to move on because when we do, we take control of our lives. When someone consumes your mind all day in a negative way, they have control over your mental. You might as well say that, that person owns your mind!!!! I will admit that it is NOT easy to get over certain situations (child molestation, being cheated on, abandonment, betrayal, etc)  but it is something that we MUST do in order to get to the direction that we are trying to go in our lives. 

That Sunday, Lebonandi's video woke me up and it did not stop there!! I was on Facebook and for some reason I decided to Like Shanel Cooper Sykes page (A life coach whom videos Ive been watching for a couple of months on YouTube, Check her out http://www.youtube.com/user/shanelcooper ). She had mentioned something about midnight meditation. Where a group of people all over the world call in toll free to have a meditation session with her.

Everything seemed to fall in place because God was really working that night. Shanel wrote a comment asking people what did they need prayer for. I wrote "Strength". Because I really needed the strength to get through that down moment that I was having and to learn to forgive. I called in that night and to my surprise, the meditation session was all about strength!!! Boy was God working in my favor. We meditated and prayed for strength to get through the hard times that we were going through, knowing that God was going to be there every step of the way and that those hard moments would pass!

That night I went to bed with a different outlook on life and forgiveness. I realized that I had been putting to much energy into people who probably was not even worrying about me or my feelings. I realized that I forgot about what it is that I should have been truly focusing on, which was my LIFE PURPOSE! I went to bed with so much gratitude because God was there for me and I felt his presence! 

PEOPLE LEARN TO FORGIVE. Do not do it for those who hurt you but, for yourself. Because to be truthfully honest, when you choose not to forgive, you end up hurting yourself far more than the people who actually hurt you from the beginning!

"Words of Wisdom"

When I need some "Words of Wisdom", these are some of the many videos that I come to. Sometimes when your aspirations in life is different from those around you, you feel alone. Family and friends are not going to always see things the way you see them when it comes to life. Especially when you are trying to go places in life that no one around you have ever went.