A State of Peace

Hi my fellow blog-nistas! I apologize for the fact that I have not been writing anything. Everything that I write comes straight from the heart. I want people to capture my true essences at the moment. I want people to feel the emotions that I am feeling. Be able to see, in their minds, the picture that I am trying to paint through my words. These last couple of weeks for me, have most definitely been a growing spurt in every aspect of my life. I wanted to write what I was experiencing in the moment, but at times it was very hard to put what I was feeling into words, being that these feelings were new to me.

Now, that I have begun to get my thoughts into order, I must say that these experiences that I have been experiencing have been AMAZING! As I have mentioned in previous post, I completed Shanel Cooper Sykes classes and it was a wake up call for me. You can visit her website at: http://www.shanelcoopersykes.com/main/vyv_broadcast.php or you can watch her videos at:

http://www.youtube.com/shanelcooper. This woman is TRULY AMAZING! She had a 7 day Valuable Woman Challenge, which included different topics that women in the modern age could use to increase their value as a woman or a person period! 

The first day was about the mindset. If you change your mindset, you can change your entire world from the inside as well as out. The second day was about the spirituality of a woman. Nothing can get done without having the all and mighty God in our lives. The third day was all about beauty. Its good to be a good person on the inside but your beauty from within should also reflect on the outside. Your appearance is a key factor of how you feel on the inside. The forth day was all about the Domestic Goddess within us. Your growth in every aspect of your life starts in your HOME. If your home is not taken care of, then that means your life isn't taken care of. The fifth day was all about finances. You cannot be a woman of value without money. All though money is not everything, its a tool to getting you to where you need to be in this life and in this society, therefore, you must have it. The sixth day was about men! In order to get the quality man you want, you must possess those qualities yourself. Last but not least, the seventh day was all about purpose! You must always live your life in purpose. Every individual down to every material possession in your life must be purposeful.

Those seven days were really an eye opener for me. I really worked on changing my mindset because without doing that the other six days would have been worthless. My relationship with God has grown each and every moment after that. I am now experiencing a life filled with more peace, love, happiness, abundance and prosperity. Things begin to happen in my life that I did not expect and I begin to see things from a different perspective. 

Although, I will admit that everyday is not easy, I can honestly say that my thoughts have increased in positivity in such a major way. One thing that I have realized over these past couple of weeks is that, we can choose the way that we view things. I mean we all know this, but how many of us actually take the time to actually let that statement soak in and begin to live by it. Even when things appear to be negative in our lives, we still can choose peace because to be honest, that is the only way that our lives will truly be able to get better. I've never heard of negative thinking making anyone's life better. Have you?

I have decided to choose a life filled with peace, happiness, and joy. Although I know that there will be times where challenging situations will pop up in my life, I also understand that I can remain in a state of peace. NO ONE OR NO SITUATION CAN TAKE AWAY YOUR INNER PEACE UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT!  That is a statement most definitely worth remembering!

Do It For Yourself

I was currently in a situation in my life where I was aiming to move on from the things that close love ones had done to me in the past! This included family, friends, a lover, etc. For some people forgiveness comes naturally, but for me, it didn't. Things got so bad that I was even considering revenge, but deep down inside, I knew that in the end, the person who would be hurt the most would be me. 

The truth of the matter is that sometimes I believe that we hold on to what other's have done to us because we put so much trust in other human beings. We fail to realize that these are people, and putting too much trust in another human is putting them on a God like pedestal. When we do this we are really setting ourselves up for failure because just like ourselves, these people are going to make mistakes! 

Before I had a wake up call about a week ago, I had previously spent so much time being angry with love ones. Constantly planning how I was was going to permanently remove them from my life. I often asked myself, how could they do this to me? I remember repeatedly asking myself why me? why me? why me?

 That last time I asked myself why me was last Sunday! That was the day that I had a wakeup call! I was so down that all I started to do was pray. I just prayed and asked God to help me. I asked him to give me the strength to get through this! Forgiveness was the hardest thing for me to do emotionally but I knew deep down inside that I could get through it and I was right! God had answered my prayers immediately.

 I had been listening to this YouTuber who goes by the name of Lebonandi (check out her page 

http://www.youtube.com/user/Lebonandi), and I had become drawn to her spirit and her positive energy that she projected from the inside. I decided to write her asking her about forgiveness and she returned her answer by responding with a YouTube video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X41YH0hna14) which woke me the hell up! 

After viewing that video, I realized that I was tired of being angry. I was sick of crying. I was done with worrying and I was so over with feeling sorry for myself. I  decided that it was time for a change. See a lot of the time, we spend so much time being angry with people who have probably moved on with their lives. Who probably do not care that they hurt us. Sometimes they think that they were not wrong and some do not even know that they hurt us. So we have to move on with our lives. Not for those who have wronged us but for ourselves. 

We have to move on because when we do, we take control of our lives. When someone consumes your mind all day in a negative way, they have control over your mental. You might as well say that, that person owns your mind!!!! I will admit that it is NOT easy to get over certain situations (child molestation, being cheated on, abandonment, betrayal, etc)  but it is something that we MUST do in order to get to the direction that we are trying to go in our lives. 

That Sunday, Lebonandi's video woke me up and it did not stop there!! I was on Facebook and for some reason I decided to Like Shanel Cooper Sykes page (A life coach whom videos Ive been watching for a couple of months on YouTube, Check her out http://www.youtube.com/user/shanelcooper ). She had mentioned something about midnight meditation. Where a group of people all over the world call in toll free to have a meditation session with her.

Everything seemed to fall in place because God was really working that night. Shanel wrote a comment asking people what did they need prayer for. I wrote "Strength". Because I really needed the strength to get through that down moment that I was having and to learn to forgive. I called in that night and to my surprise, the meditation session was all about strength!!! Boy was God working in my favor. We meditated and prayed for strength to get through the hard times that we were going through, knowing that God was going to be there every step of the way and that those hard moments would pass!

That night I went to bed with a different outlook on life and forgiveness. I realized that I had been putting to much energy into people who probably was not even worrying about me or my feelings. I realized that I forgot about what it is that I should have been truly focusing on, which was my LIFE PURPOSE! I went to bed with so much gratitude because God was there for me and I felt his presence! 

PEOPLE LEARN TO FORGIVE. Do not do it for those who hurt you but, for yourself. Because to be truthfully honest, when you choose not to forgive, you end up hurting yourself far more than the people who actually hurt you from the beginning!