A State of Peace

Hi my fellow blog-nistas! I apologize for the fact that I have not been writing anything. Everything that I write comes straight from the heart. I want people to capture my true essences at the moment. I want people to feel the emotions that I am feeling. Be able to see, in their minds, the picture that I am trying to paint through my words. These last couple of weeks for me, have most definitely been a growing spurt in every aspect of my life. I wanted to write what I was experiencing in the moment, but at times it was very hard to put what I was feeling into words, being that these feelings were new to me.

Now, that I have begun to get my thoughts into order, I must say that these experiences that I have been experiencing have been AMAZING! As I have mentioned in previous post, I completed Shanel Cooper Sykes classes and it was a wake up call for me. You can visit her website at: http://www.shanelcoopersykes.com/main/vyv_broadcast.php or you can watch her videos at:

http://www.youtube.com/shanelcooper. This woman is TRULY AMAZING! She had a 7 day Valuable Woman Challenge, which included different topics that women in the modern age could use to increase their value as a woman or a person period! 

The first day was about the mindset. If you change your mindset, you can change your entire world from the inside as well as out. The second day was about the spirituality of a woman. Nothing can get done without having the all and mighty God in our lives. The third day was all about beauty. Its good to be a good person on the inside but your beauty from within should also reflect on the outside. Your appearance is a key factor of how you feel on the inside. The forth day was all about the Domestic Goddess within us. Your growth in every aspect of your life starts in your HOME. If your home is not taken care of, then that means your life isn't taken care of. The fifth day was all about finances. You cannot be a woman of value without money. All though money is not everything, its a tool to getting you to where you need to be in this life and in this society, therefore, you must have it. The sixth day was about men! In order to get the quality man you want, you must possess those qualities yourself. Last but not least, the seventh day was all about purpose! You must always live your life in purpose. Every individual down to every material possession in your life must be purposeful.

Those seven days were really an eye opener for me. I really worked on changing my mindset because without doing that the other six days would have been worthless. My relationship with God has grown each and every moment after that. I am now experiencing a life filled with more peace, love, happiness, abundance and prosperity. Things begin to happen in my life that I did not expect and I begin to see things from a different perspective. 

Although, I will admit that everyday is not easy, I can honestly say that my thoughts have increased in positivity in such a major way. One thing that I have realized over these past couple of weeks is that, we can choose the way that we view things. I mean we all know this, but how many of us actually take the time to actually let that statement soak in and begin to live by it. Even when things appear to be negative in our lives, we still can choose peace because to be honest, that is the only way that our lives will truly be able to get better. I've never heard of negative thinking making anyone's life better. Have you?

I have decided to choose a life filled with peace, happiness, and joy. Although I know that there will be times where challenging situations will pop up in my life, I also understand that I can remain in a state of peace. NO ONE OR NO SITUATION CAN TAKE AWAY YOUR INNER PEACE UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT!  That is a statement most definitely worth remembering!

Is Separation the Key for Negative Family Members??

I am on a certain path in my life. I'm at a point where I am aiming to find my place here on earth. My soul yearns to reach a certain destiny and I am at the point where I am letting NOTHING get in my way. That includes certain family members.

See, sometimes we can love our family members to death but, if their beliefs and way of life does not align with yours, you might have to cut them off for a sec while you get yourself together, and then get back to them after your house is in order!

There are certain family members of mine (close ones at that) whom I love so dearly but, their negative attitude and behavior have caused me to distant myself mentally. I am currently in a position where I cannot as of yet distant myself physically but, I am at the point where I am heavily thinking about doing so when I am able.

For me this is a very complicated situation. One of the most complicated situations in my life that I have been in as of yet! It burdens my heart when the ones that is suppose to love me the most does not inspire, encourage, or support my dreams or aspirations. The ones that is suppose to have my back to the end are the ones who discourage and down me the most. The ones whom I am suppose to trust the most is the ones who I distrust more than a stranger, because they go behind my back and stab it while ringing the knife around in it. 

Although this situation has been very painful, I am now in a healing process. Like I said in my previous post about forgiveness, you cannot put to much trust in another human being, because you are putting them in a God like position when this is done! This also includes family.  Although their family may not be perfect, few people tend to have a pretty close knit bond and understanding with their family but, for most, this is not the reality. 

Although very painful several of us have to come to the understanding that sometimes family will hurt you more than any stranger out in the streets could ever do. We have to come to the conclusion that sometimes, you cant change people. People have to want change for themselves and when that includes family, we have to learn to forgive, move on, and realize that everyone have their own life path where they must learn. 

I think the biggest lesson out of this situation for me is that the only person who I can depend on in this life is God and myself. You cannot always depend on others to back you in your situations. You cannot always depend on others to inspire you and you sure as heck cannot always depend on others to love you the way that you want to be loved. So with that being said, you must learn to love self, depend on self and know that God will have your back to the end of it all!

If you are in a position where there is no reasonable solution, then separating yourself for a while and going through a healing process may be the only option. I would tell no one to abandon their love ones unless the situation involved physical abuse (such as sexual assaults, beatings etc), but I will say that sometimes you do have to separate yourself from certain situations for a while. Just to get you in order because constant beating downs of the mental can leave you feeling so low and dry. When being in a position like that, there is little room for positive solutions. 

I feel myself having to do this if things do not change with certain family members of mines. Yes it will be hard and I know that their is a big chance that guilt may sneak in, but I know that in order for me to better myself and reach my destiny, this might be what I have to do. It will be a tough decision but I feel like it will be best. It might also teach those certain love ones that they cannot go around treating others like this because it may result in them losing people who actually care for them.

Take a stand by loving you first because no one, besides God is going to love you better than what you feel for yourself!

Do It For Yourself

I was currently in a situation in my life where I was aiming to move on from the things that close love ones had done to me in the past! This included family, friends, a lover, etc. For some people forgiveness comes naturally, but for me, it didn't. Things got so bad that I was even considering revenge, but deep down inside, I knew that in the end, the person who would be hurt the most would be me. 

The truth of the matter is that sometimes I believe that we hold on to what other's have done to us because we put so much trust in other human beings. We fail to realize that these are people, and putting too much trust in another human is putting them on a God like pedestal. When we do this we are really setting ourselves up for failure because just like ourselves, these people are going to make mistakes! 

Before I had a wake up call about a week ago, I had previously spent so much time being angry with love ones. Constantly planning how I was was going to permanently remove them from my life. I often asked myself, how could they do this to me? I remember repeatedly asking myself why me? why me? why me?

 That last time I asked myself why me was last Sunday! That was the day that I had a wakeup call! I was so down that all I started to do was pray. I just prayed and asked God to help me. I asked him to give me the strength to get through this! Forgiveness was the hardest thing for me to do emotionally but I knew deep down inside that I could get through it and I was right! God had answered my prayers immediately.

 I had been listening to this YouTuber who goes by the name of Lebonandi (check out her page 

http://www.youtube.com/user/Lebonandi), and I had become drawn to her spirit and her positive energy that she projected from the inside. I decided to write her asking her about forgiveness and she returned her answer by responding with a YouTube video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X41YH0hna14) which woke me the hell up! 

After viewing that video, I realized that I was tired of being angry. I was sick of crying. I was done with worrying and I was so over with feeling sorry for myself. I  decided that it was time for a change. See a lot of the time, we spend so much time being angry with people who have probably moved on with their lives. Who probably do not care that they hurt us. Sometimes they think that they were not wrong and some do not even know that they hurt us. So we have to move on with our lives. Not for those who have wronged us but for ourselves. 

We have to move on because when we do, we take control of our lives. When someone consumes your mind all day in a negative way, they have control over your mental. You might as well say that, that person owns your mind!!!! I will admit that it is NOT easy to get over certain situations (child molestation, being cheated on, abandonment, betrayal, etc)  but it is something that we MUST do in order to get to the direction that we are trying to go in our lives. 

That Sunday, Lebonandi's video woke me up and it did not stop there!! I was on Facebook and for some reason I decided to Like Shanel Cooper Sykes page (A life coach whom videos Ive been watching for a couple of months on YouTube, Check her out http://www.youtube.com/user/shanelcooper ). She had mentioned something about midnight meditation. Where a group of people all over the world call in toll free to have a meditation session with her.

Everything seemed to fall in place because God was really working that night. Shanel wrote a comment asking people what did they need prayer for. I wrote "Strength". Because I really needed the strength to get through that down moment that I was having and to learn to forgive. I called in that night and to my surprise, the meditation session was all about strength!!! Boy was God working in my favor. We meditated and prayed for strength to get through the hard times that we were going through, knowing that God was going to be there every step of the way and that those hard moments would pass!

That night I went to bed with a different outlook on life and forgiveness. I realized that I had been putting to much energy into people who probably was not even worrying about me or my feelings. I realized that I forgot about what it is that I should have been truly focusing on, which was my LIFE PURPOSE! I went to bed with so much gratitude because God was there for me and I felt his presence! 

PEOPLE LEARN TO FORGIVE. Do not do it for those who hurt you but, for yourself. Because to be truthfully honest, when you choose not to forgive, you end up hurting yourself far more than the people who actually hurt you from the beginning!

"Words of Wisdom"

When I need some "Words of Wisdom", these are some of the many videos that I come to. Sometimes when your aspirations in life is different from those around you, you feel alone. Family and friends are not going to always see things the way you see them when it comes to life. Especially when you are trying to go places in life that no one around you have ever went. 

 

Welcome

Hi my fellow blog-nistas! I am new to this whole thing but it is something that I probably will be getting use to in the future! I decided to create this page because I find myself with hundreds of thoughts floating through this big head of mines often (lol). 

Right now in my life, I am going through a massive change. My words are different. My thoughts are different. My actions are different. My vision on life is all in all different from what it use to be! 

I am on a Spiritual journey to Life Freedom! You guys may ask, what in the heck is Life Freedom?? Well life freedom to me is just being. Being happy just because. Being grateful just because. Just simply being who you are and enjoying you in the present moment. 

I am on a path to a life that is filled with abundance, prosperity, happiness, peace, joy, and harmony and just decided to share my journey with whom ever may come into contact with this blog. You never know who you may inspire that is going through the same life situations as yourself, ya know!

So kick back and enjoy because this blog is all about  Words, Thoughts and Deeds, Which may result into Major RESULTS!!!!